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A reply to a question from the last post. What does it mean to swoon a lady?
In a response to last month's article, someone asked what it means to swoon a lady. Honestly, there is no right or wrong answer to this. However, there are some things which do seem to pop up often whenever ladies talk about a fabulous experience they have.

Smile and make eye contact.

I am not talking about the plastered smile nor the creepy smile that sends ladies running off in the opposite direction. Smile sincerely and ladies would most likely smile back in return. Smiling = happiness. Easy enough yes? Ladies may be equally nervous too so smiling can go a long way into turning the dance into one that is fun and easy for both parties. Making eye contact is a sign of confidence and it shows engagement with the partner. Just be careful where you are looking!


Be a gentleman.

I can't say this enough. I have spoken to ladies who have revealed that they were totally swooned after dancing with gentlemen who made them feel like a woman. While that sounds a little abstract, they did mention about the gentleman providing a simple but clear lead throughout the dance while always taking care of her safety first. Like one lady put it, "I didn't have to think about anything at all. I just had to follow. Even if it was just a cross body lead turn, he would be there to catch me by the time I finished my turn. I felt very well taken care of."

Gentlemen also know how to keep a respectful distance from ladies and watch where their hands go. If the lady senses that the gentleman is being respectful, she would feel more comfortable with letting him into her space.

Conversely, ladies can spot a gentleman with questionable intentions instinctly and you can be sure, other ladies will know about it by the end of the night even if they have not danced with the man. I would suggest looking elsewhere if any gentleman had such intentions.


Be yourself.

Dancing is a form of expression. While there are moves, there is also room for personal expression. What may look stylish on another person may not be for you. As long as you play safe and nice, there is no harm in finding your personal style which may well become a trademark that ladies remember you for.

Have fun!

This is probably the most important point of all. Have good natured fun and your partner would have fun too. Ladies are more likely to feel swooned by a gentleman who's having fun and and including her too.